blackestfaery

So I just finished the second and last round of friend/community cuts this morning. This was decidedly more painful than the first round because I had to let go of things that I was holding on to simply because of how much I had—and I cringe at admitting it now—emotionally invested in it.

I think I've pared my list down to the people I still talk to, people who still talk to me, or people who I still share interests with.

And I should be able to leave it at that, but this is the internet and without the benefit of actually speaking to each other, I think an explanation is best.

First. This isn't about:

- being elitist
- cutting out of spite because I never hear from people

I never tried for being popular or having the largest flist. Joining livejournal for me was to find people with similar interests and to read fanfiction. I've been around enough fandoms to understand that people move on to other interests, old fandoms get dropped, and yes, let's adress the elephant in the room: friends get dropped as well. It sucks when it happens but it does, but if I let that bother me, then I'm taking fandom way 2SRSLY.

I've been cut before and dislike the idea (or perhaps just the term) of "cutting" friends; it's so...harsh. But with my resolution to better reply to people's posts comes the need to be able to actually see them first.

So, please, no hard feelings. And you're more than welcome to take me off your list as well.

All the best,
Char